Breaking the Chains of Limiting Beliefs

How to Step Into Your Truth and Spiritual Freedom

Where you stand today is a reflection of everywhere you’ve been. But to move forward—to truly embody the freedom your soul craves—you must release the emotional, mental, and even physical chains that keep you tethered to a time, identity, or belief that no longer serves you.

This post is not just about mindset. It’s about soul work. It’s about peeling back the layers of fear, shame, and protection mechanisms that were once needed for survival, but now keep you from thriving. If you’ve ever felt like your past is quietly controlling your present—or that you’re living someone else’s version of success—this is for you.

Let’s talk about the spiritual and emotional liberation that comes with rewriting the beliefs we inherited, especially those we formed to earn love, stay safe, or make sense of chaos.

Integrating the Past With the Present

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or denying where you came from. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. Healing begins when you fully acknowledge your past without judgment—and then, choose to stop reliving it.

Integration is when the past no longer defines you, but instead, informs your wisdom. It’s the moment you can say: This happened to me. I felt this. I survived this. And now, I choose differently.

You cannot access your full potential while clinging to a version of yourself that was built for survival, not expansion. So how do you let go? You feel what you haven’t felt. You examine the beliefs that keep you stuck. You question the “truths” you’ve never dared to doubt.

Limiting Beliefs: The Invisible Chains

One of the most impactful exercises I’ve done in my own healing is something I learned from a seminar by Tony Robbins:

1. Identify a belief that holds you back.
   
2. Draw a table.
   
   • Write the belief at the top (the “tabletop”).
     
   • Then write four “legs” that support that belief—these are personal experiences or references that seem to prove it’s true.
     
3. Now, begin to question each leg.
   
   • Is it true?
     
   • Is it a misperception?
     
   • Do I have all the facts?
     
   • What if this belief didn’t exist?
     

This is how you break a belief—by removing the legs that hold it up. When you start to question the foundations, the belief collapses.

My Personal Example: A Belief Rooted in Childhood

Let me take you into my own work.

Limiting Belief:
I must be financially stable, wealthy, and have a successful career in order to be worthy of my mother’s love and respect, as well as the respect of others.

When I examined this belief, I realized something massive: This isn’t my truth. It’s my mother’s. It’s society’s. But it’s not mine.

And it was destroying me. When I believed this, I felt:

• Like a failure.
  
• Like I wasn’t good enough.
  
• Like I was lazy and unworthy.
  
• Overwhelmed, anxious, paralyzed by pressure.
  

If this belief didn’t exist—if money were no object—I’d stop trying to “earn” love through productivity. I’d focus on purpose. I’d live from the heart. I’d inspire, uplift, and help others see their God-given worth.

The Mother Wound: Who Did I Have to Be?

As a child, the love I craved most was from my mother. But that love felt conditional. She obsessed over financial security, having a successful partner, and staying covered by good health insurance. Everything revolved around money—and I internalized that narrative.

I became a perfectionist. I believed if I could just be good enough, maybe she’d finally approve. But beneath the surface, I was angry. I hated what she represented. I thought I was rebelling by distancing myself. But in reality, I was building walls. Avoidance was just a mask for pain.

What I feared most wasn’t rejection—it was the absence of love. So I hardened. I lashed out. I protected myself from what felt cold, inconsistent, and unsafe.

In hindsight, I see that my childhood taught me this:
Love is conditional. And because of that, I tried to become someone who could “earn” love rather than receive it freely.

Fear Is the Root of Every Limiting Belief

Fear is the ego’s playground. And two core fears drive almost every limiting belief we have:

1. That we’re not enough.
   
2. That we won’t be loved.
   

These fears keep us stuck. They keep us small. They create mental prisons we mistake for safety.

Fear is like the dark. It makes us imagine monsters. But if we just turn on the light—if we shine awareness on our subconscious—we’ll often find there’s nothing there at all. Just a frightened version of ourselves waiting to be seen, heard, and set free.

The Real Fear Beneath the Fear

I’ve often said, “I’m not afraid of death.” But the truth is more nuanced.

What I actually fear… is dying without having lived up to my full potential.

This fear used to paralyze me. It made me believe that if I didn’t hustle hard enough, or build something “worthy,” I’d fail God, fail myself, and waste my life.

But this fear is just another disguise.

Because if I believe this is the only life I get, then of course I’ll panic and pressure myself. But when I remember the eternalness of our existence, and that we’re spiritual beings here for a season—not the whole story—I relax. I get to create, express, and live for God’s glory, not man’s approval.

The Goal: Total Freedom

At my core, I value freedom:

• Spiritual freedom.
  
• Emotional freedom.
  
• Physical freedom.
  
• Financial freedom.
  
• Mental freedom.
  

Freedom is my compass. It’s my birthright. And it’s also my responsibility.

I believe that with God, I am always safe. I am always free. I am always loved—without needing to earn it.

God gave me a testimony, and He wants me to share it. Not once I’m rich. Not once I’m perfect. But now, in the becoming.

A Tool You Can Use Today

Here’s your invitation to do the work:

1. Write down a belief that limits you.
   
2. Draw the table. Identify the four legs.
   
3. Ask deep, reflective questions about each leg.
   
4. Feel what you’ve never felt. Accept what happened.
   
5. Replace the belief with a new one aligned with your values and God’s truth.
   

And remember: The mind is crafty. It’s doing what it was wired to do—protect you. But you are more than your mind. You are a spirit, and your spirit knows the way to freedom.

Final Reflection

Fear is just the unknowing. When we understand the why, we dismantle the what, and we finally become the who we came here to be.

You don’t have to stay chained to the past. You don’t have to keep proving yourself to be worthy of love. You already are. Your job now is to believe it—and live like it.

No love lost. No love found. Let’s break that pattern.

Let love be found—in you, for you, and through you.